MMMM: Mindfulness, Meditation and Mental health May- is a month of quotes, books and (sometimes unexpected) resources to reflect on, to help have a happier, more mindful life.
Regular book reviews will continue on Fridays.
Quote of the Day
“One does not become enlightened by imagining figures of light, but by making the darkness conscious. The latter procedure, however, is disagreeable and therefore not popular.”
― C.G. Jung
Resource of the Day:
Brené Brown: the Power of Vulnerability (books and Ted Talks)
Brené Brown is a researcher who has focussed on shame and vulnerability, and how they connect in to wholehearted living. She explains how shame is a painful experience or belief that you are flawed in some way, and therefore unworthy of love and belonging. It interferes with loving relationships- both the giving and receiving of love. It stop you from being yourself, trying new things, expressing yourself, creating, trying… Allowing yourself to lean into things that make you feel vulnerable is the antidote- to do hard things you might fail at but to keep trying, to open up about parts of yourself you don’t like to an intimate partner, to admit mistakes and own them and so on. Accepting and embracing vulnerability is necessary to have the things shame stops.
“Embracing our vulnerabilities is risky but not nearly as dangerous as giving up on love and belonging and joy—the experiences that make us the most vulnerable. Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light.”
Listen to her Ted talks to get an idea of the reach of her research, or read the books to get a more in depth idea of how to work on vulnerability in your own life.
Musing from Me:
Have you ever noticed that it is the worst things that happen that make the best stories to tell later- the accidents, the drama, the freezing cold water you had to wade through on your otherwise pleasant hike…
Have you found that the things you are most proud of, are the things that were hardest at the time? And the memory of your triumph, your spunk and kick-ass-ness in the past gets you through the next hard thing?
Have you ever noticed that the cold rain, the unexepectedly unusual taste, the heart pumping nervousness, and most other slightly unpleasant things make you feel more alive somehow, bring you out of the everyday routine and wake you up.
We all need to rest sometimes. We need to treat ourselves kindly, and love who we are. But we don’t need to try to avoid the uncomfortable at all costs. They are a part of life, and often, in retrospect, are part of the important things in life.